Unhooking from the shoulds gets harder and harder when you get tired and fatigued, and you get tired faster when you are tense - it becomes a viscous cycle. Learning to respond and unhook from these unhelpful thoughts when you’re uncomfortable takes work…

Much like a bus driver that has unruly passengers climb aboard ever single day you have a choice.

If you engage and argue with them then who’s driving the bus?

If you listen to them then you’re not getting to your destination.

Having a ‘Why’ constructed through values is one way that I orient myself on a journey. They, being values, provide a bearing to the direction you want to go. Goals on the other hand are the values in action. They are the waypoints to the journey.